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196 – Parenting a Child with RAD: An Adoptive Mom’s Story of Heartbreak and Strength

“By the time he left, I felt like I was close to a mental breakdown. And I would tell my husband over and over, I can’t do this much longer. I just can’t. 
You know, I would go sit in the Walmart parking lot for three hours until he went to bed. And so I was avoiding my whole family. That affected my husband because here my husband is supposed to be my protector, but legally he can’t protect me against this thirteen-year-old who’s constantly verbally abusing me.”
Hi Neighbor,
Navigating the complexities of parenting a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is a journey few understand, yet many adoptive parents endure in silence. 
In this episode, I sit down with Karen, an adoptive mother of six and a survivor of the extraordinary challenges RAD can bring to a family.
Her vulnerability is a reminder that while this path is isolating, hope and healing are possible.
RAD is a daily battle that can reshape a family. In Karen, we see what it means to survive, to keep going, and to find strength through connection and support.
Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.
Your Neighbor,Tim
P.S. You’re not alone in this journey! I’ve set aside a limited number of free spots on a first come, first served basis and I’d love for you to be a part of it. To schedule a time with me, just email me tim@anchorsofencouragement.com
If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.

195 – Are You a Struggling Adoptive Parent? 3 Ways To Restore The Sparkle In Your Eyes

Could it be that the very struggles you've walked through have prepared you to encourage someone else?
Hi Neighbor!⁣
Why do bad things happen in life?
Some might say, “That’s just life.” But I believe there’s a deeper meaning behind that question, something worth pausing to reflect on.
In this episode, let’s reframe that narrative together. I’ll share a moment from David’s life in Psalm 13, a powerful example from Paul in 2 Corinthians 1 and 7, and a bold conversation with a queen in Esther 4.
Through their stories, we’ll explore 3 ways you can help someone restore the sparkle in their eyes even in the middle of hardship.
Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.
Your Neighbor,Tim
P.S. You’re not alone in this journey! I’ve set aside a limited number of free spots on a first come, first served basis and I’d love for you to be a part of it. To schedule a time with me, just email me tim@anchorsofencouragement.com
If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.

194 – How Music Therapy Can Make a Difference for Your Adopted Child

Even adults who haven’t been through trauma can tell you that it’s sometimes difficult to talk about our feelings. I think that is the beauty of music therapy. Because clients can come. They don’t necessarily need to say exactly what they want to explore. We can just explore in music.
Hi Neighbor,
Did you know that music can be a powerful tool for healing in the lives of adopted children navigating trauma?
Today, I’m excited to welcome back my neighbor from London, Crystal Luk-Worrall. Crystal is a music therapist, EMDR practitioner, and clinical supervisor who specializes in helping children and families heal from early trauma.
In Episode 180, Crystal introduced us to EMDR therapy—a powerful approach for adoptive parents supporting kids through trauma.
In this episode, she shares her personal journey—from aspiring concert pianist to discovering her true calling as a music therapist. Crystal explains how music opens up new pathways for communication and healing.
Music allows kids to express what words often can’t. In therapy, it becomes a bridge—not just between sounds, but to feelings that may be too big or complex to name. As parents, we can help our children explore their emotions rather than suppress them.
Grab a pen and paper—Crystal has some simple, practical ways you can start incorporating music therapy at home.
Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.Your Neighbor,Tim
P.S. You’re not alone in this journey. If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.
Listen to today’s episode and share it with fellow adoptive parents. These conversations foster strength and understanding in our community. Be the anchor others may need right now.
Connect with Crystal:Freebie: https://www.clapandtoot.com/6waystoregulateWebsite: https://www.clapandtoot.com/Email: crystal@clapandtoot.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/crystal-luk/
 
Disclaimer: The content of this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.  Always consult your healthcare provider with your health questions and concerns.
As is the case with anyone that I bring on the show to talk to you, I encourage take notes and listen to the information. Then do your due diligence and use what you can in your adoption journey to parent your child the best way you can.

193 – Reflections on Losing My Friend and Anchor of Encouragement

Sometimes, life has a way of knocking the wind out of us, suddenly and without warning.
Hi Neighbor,
How do you navigate those unexpected changes or losses that shake your world?
Over time, I’ve learned to find steady ground through simple practices, prayer, journaling, or even a quiet walk outside. In the midst of grief, these anchors have become pockets of peace.
I’ve also come to lean on the people in my life, my anchors. Friends who listen, support, and encourage me when life is difficult.
In today’s episode, I reflect on the sudden loss of a dear friend, Shannon, one of those anchors who passed away without warning.
His life reminds me of the kind of steady, hopeful presence, and anchor we all need.
Anchors of hope and healing are on the way.
Your Neighbor,Tim
P.S My thoughts and prayers are with Shannon’s wife, Dana, and the entire family. Though there will be tears, sorrow, and pain now, Shannon knew that one day God will wipe away every tear.
You’re not alone in this journey. If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you’re going through.

192 – How to Help Your Adopted Child Out of a Ditch Without Falling in Yourself?

When your adopted child is struggling, how can you support them while being okay yourself?
Hi Neighbor,
Ever felt like your adopted child was stuck in an emotional ditch?
Today’s segment, Getting Out of the Ditch, comes from Episode 183. Jane Baker uses a powerful metaphor: if your child is down in a ditch, you can’t help them by jumping in after them. 
I want to encourage you to listen, take notes, and sit with the idea or ideas that speak to you. You can be okay even if your kids aren’t. Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.Your Neighbor,Tim
P.S. You’re not alone in this journey. If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.
Listen to today’s episode and share it with fellow adoptive parents. These conversations foster strength and understanding in our community. Be the anchor others may need right now.
Contact Jane:• Phone Number: (256) 353-8528• Email: jbaker@adoption-associates.com• Website: Adoption Associates

191 – Phone Calls, Police, and Pizza: Navigating Crisis as an Adoptive Parent

As adoptive parents, we often face incredibly challenging moments, especially when our kids are struggling or make choices that push us to the brink.
Hi Neighbor,
When things go south, what can you do? You can call the therapist, the case worker, or sometimes, even the police. But what’s next? How can you be okay even if your kids aren’t?
Today’s segment, Call for Pizza, comes from Episode 183. I want to encourage you to listen, take notes, and sit with the idea or ideas that speak to you.
You can be okay even if your kids aren’t.
Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.Your Neighbor,Tim
P.S. You’re not alone in this journey. If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.
Listen to today’s episode and share it with fellow adoptive parents. These conversations foster strength and understanding in our community. Be the anchor others may need right now.
Contact Jane:• Phone Number: (256) 353-8528• Email: jbaker@adoption-associates.com• Website: Adoption Associates

190 – A Hero Who Never Experienced the Joy of Being Called Daddy

He was called son. He was called grandson. He was called nephew. He was called cousin, and he was called brother.
But he was never called husband. He was never called daddy, and he was never called grandpa because he never came home.
I hope when I’m finished telling you his story, you might consider calling him hero.
Hi Neighbor,
This episode was recorded as we prepare to celebrate Memorial Day in the United States. The federal holiday for honoring and mourning the U.S. military personnel who have died while serving in the United States Armed Forces.
In this episode, I share the story of my hero, Uncle Lloyd. A hero I only knew from a picture on a wall.
Hope and Healing are on the way.
Your Neighbor,⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣Tim
P.S. You’re not alone in this journey. If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.
Listen to today’s episode and share it with fellow adoptive parents. These conversations foster strength and understanding in our community. Be the anchor others may need right now.

189 – Why Should Adoptive Parents Nurture Their Relationships?

Feeling overwhelmed as an adoptive parent? You can’t pour from an empty cup!
Hi Neighbor,
Parenting, especially in adoptive families, can be overwhelming. There’s only so much you can give before you have nothing more to offer.
Today’s segment, The Magic Is in Nurturing Your Relationships, comes from Episode 183. I want to encourage you to listen, take notes, and sit with the idea or ideas that speak to you.
What fills your cup? 
Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.Your Neighbor,Tim
P.S. You’re not alone in this journey. If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.
Listen to today’s episode and share it with fellow adoptive parents. These conversations foster strength and understanding in our community. Be the anchor others may need right now.
Contact Jane:• Phone Number: (256) 353-8528• Email: jbaker@adoption-associates.com• Website: Adoption Associates

188 – Family-Time Matters! The Importance of Slowing Down and Making Memories for Adoptive Families

Life as an adoptive family can feel like a never-ending whirlwind. What can adoptive parents do to help their family connect and find calm when feeling overwhelmed or stressed? 
Hi Neighbor,
As adoptive parents, it’s easy to get swept away by busy schedules and endless to-dos. Life will pile on demands until you intentionally slow down. It’s okay to say no to yet another commitment and just spend quiet time together.
Today’s segment, Family-Time Matters, comes from Episode 183. I want to encourage you to listen, take notes, and sit with the idea or ideas that speak to you.
In chaotic seasons, intentionally making time for family can be the anchor you all need.
Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.Your Neighbor,Tim
P.S. You’re not alone in this journey. If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.
Listen to today’s episode and share it with fellow adoptive parents. These conversations foster strength and understanding in our community. Be the anchor others may need right now.
Contact Jane:• Phone Number: (256) 353-8528• Email: jbaker@adoption-associates.com• Website: Adoption Associates

187 – Adoptive Parents: Don’t Be Afraid to Go to Therapy

Parenting an adopted child comes with unique challenges, and healing starts with you. Here’s how to truly support your adopted child and yourself.
Hi Neighbor,
Navigating the intricate journey of adoptive parenting presents unexpected hurdles, especially when trauma, healing, and family history are involved. 
Today’s segment, Don’t Be Afraid to Go to Therapy, comes from Episode 183. As adoptive parents, it’s okay to seek therapy for yourself. Healing starts with us. 
When parents seek help for themselves first, it sends a vital message: everyone needs support sometimes. It also prevents children from feeling like they’re “the problem” and shows that healing is a family journey.
I want to encourage you to listen, take notes, and sit with the idea or ideas that speak to you. Facing our own history can open doors for our kids to heal, too.
Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.Your Neighbor,Tim
P.S. You’re not alone in this journey. If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.
Listen to today’s episode and share it with fellow adoptive parents. These conversations foster strength and understanding in our community. Be the anchor others may need right now.
Contact Jane:• Phone Number: (256) 353-8528• Email: jbaker@adoption-associates.com• Website: Adoption Associates
Resources mentioned by Jane:• Parenting with Love & Logic• Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
Website: Love and Logic