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9 – Adoption Trauma Defined! Part 2: How to Find Help and a Good Therapist with Jane Baker

A Conversation With Adoption Trauma Therapist, Jane Baker
Hi Neighbor!⁣⁣⁣⁣
This is Part 2 of my interview with Jane Baker. If you haven’t listened to Part 1, you can catch that in Episode 8.
As an adoptive parent, there were many times I doubted myself. I thought I had failed my boys. That kind of thinking does not serve you or your family well.
This episode is very TACTICAL. Jane will discuss treatment options for adoption trauma and some of the qualities you should look for in a therapist.
All that and SO MUCH MORE!
Hope and Healing are on the way.
TAKEAWAYS…
In some adopted children, you see a Pervasive Pursuit of Life on their terms.
As a parent, tell your adopted child you understand WHY they behave the way they do. It’s NOT okay but you understand.
When you have more conflict in your home than you desire, the whole family needs o go to therapy.
A therapist CAN NOT take you any further than they have been.
When you've gotten to the place where you tried everything and you're not getting the result you need, it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you as a parent. It means you need more tools in your toolbox.
SHOW NOTES...Looking for a Therapist?Jane Baker, LICSW – Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker. Jane is a Master's Level Therapist.
Other levels of Therapist Licensing, Masters and above: LISCW, LPC, or Doctorate
Therapeutic approaches: Family Systems, Developmental Trauma, Individual Sessions, and Family Sessions
Contact Jane BakerWebsite: Adoption AssociatesEmail: jbaker@adoption-associates.cominfo@adoption-associates.comPhone: 1.256.353.8528 
Websites:The Child Trauma NetworkThe Attach Organization Love and Logic 
Books mentioned...Hope for Healing by the Attach organizationParenting With Love and Logic by Jim Fay and Foster Cline.
Your Neighbor,⁣⁣⁣⁣Tim⁣⁣⁣⁣
P.S. If this podcast has given you the courage and confidence to face storms in your life, the number one way you can thank me is to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts. 
Tell a friend about the show. Take a screenshot of this episode, share it in your Instagram stories, and tag me @TimMaudlin. 
You can also connect with me on my free and private Facebook Group: Anchors of Encouragement
Contact: Tim@AnchorsOfEncouragement.com
 
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8 – Adoption Trauma Defined! Part 1: How to Understand Its Causes and Effects with Jane Baker

A Conversation With Adoption Trauma Therapist, Jane Baker
Hi Neighbor!⁣⁣⁣⁣
⁣⁣In this episode, I'm excited to introduce to you, my neighbor from Alabama, Jane Baker. Jane will be talking about adoption and adoption trauma.
One thing you’re going to notice right away is Jane’s passion for adopted kids. It was her passion that made a huge difference in my son’s life and my family.
Jane was a member of the treatment team for my son when he was away from us at the Residential Treatment Center for Teens. 
I know my son wouldn't be where he is today had it not been for people like Jane as he was coming to terms with his adoption trauma.
This is a Must-Listen episode. You’re going to want to take notes. There’s so much here.
Make sure to listen until the end.
Hoping and Healing are on the way!
TAKEAWAYS...
Adoption is as normal as rain. It's just different. 
Babies experience what their birth mothers experience.
If you could weigh adoption trauma on a scale, the intensity of behaviors on one side and the intensity of loss on the other side will ALWAYS balance out.
When children are placed for adoption, there is a wound that goes along with them... whatever it is, they have to do the healing part.
For some children, it’s a bigger struggle than for others.
⁣⁣⁣⁣Your Neighbor,⁣⁣⁣⁣Tim⁣⁣⁣⁣
P.S. If this podcast has given you the courage and confidence to face storms in your life, the number one way you can thank me is to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts. 
Tell a friend about the show. Take a screenshot of this episode, share it in your Instagram stories, and tag me @TimMaudlin. 
You can also connect with me on my free and private Facebook Group: Anchors of Encouragement
Contact: Tim@AnchorsOfEncouragement.com

7 – 2 Stories On Why I Created the Podcast Anchors of Encouragement?

Why in the world would someone who lives so far away from me, call me that?
Hi Neighbor!
Wouldn't it be wonderful if we would just greet each other with a simple phrase, Hi Neighbor?
In this episode, I would like to share with you a couple of stories to illustrate why I just called you Neighbor. And then secondly, why I created the podcast Anchors of Encouragement.
I hope you enjoy this episode.
Your Neighbor,Tim
P.S. I’ll tie both stories into your Daily Doable.
If this podcast has given you the courage and confidence to face storms in your life, the number one way you can thank me is to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts. 
Tell a friend about the show. Take a screenshot of this episode, share it in your Instagram stories, and tag me @TimMaudlin. 
You can also connect with me on my free and private Facebook Group: Anchors of Encouragement
Contact us: AnchorsOfEncouragement@gmail.com

6 – 3 Ways to Face Adversity with Courage and Confidence? Admit, Ask & Accept

I Was Dreading This Moment. It Was Time to Say Goodbye!
Hi Neighbor!
Have you ever had to say a hard goodbye? We all have. They can turn you into a nervous wreck. You’re anxious, scared, and unsure of yourself. I know I was.
Today, I would like to share with you a story about the hardest goodbye I’ve ever had to say. I’ve said final goodbyes to both my parents. Those were hard goodbyes, but the goodbye I have in mind today is by far the hardest one I’ve ever had to say.
In this episode, I’m also going to share with you 3 Ways to Face Adversity with Courage and Confidence.
I hope these ideas encourage you.
Tim
P.S. I’ll also share a bonus way to face adversity with the Supreme Anchor and tie it all together with your Daily Doable.
If this podcast has given you the courage and confidence to face storms in your life, the number one way you can thank me is to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts. 
Tell a friend about the show. Take a screenshot of this episode, share it in your Instagram stories, and tag me @TimMaudlin. 
You can also connect with me on my free and private Facebook Group: Anchors of Encouragement
Contact us: AnchorsOfEncouragement@gmail.com

5 – 3 Benefits of Walking to Overcome Overwhelm and Stress

Maybe You Should Tell Yourself to Take a Hike!
Hi Neighbor!
Are you stressed and overwhelmed? It’s hard not to be.
Are there times when you have trouble breathing?
In this episode, I’m going to encourage you to tell yourself to Take a Hike! We’ll look at 3 benefits of walking as we consider the Healthy Boundaries Anchor. 
To your health and less stress!
Tim
P.S. I’ll also share a bonus benefit for walking and tie it all together with your Daily Doable. 
If this podcast has given you the courage and confidence to face storms in your life, the number one way you can thank me is to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts. 
Tell a friend about the show. Take a screenshot of this episode, share it in your Instagram stories, and tag me @TimMaudlin. 
You can also connect with me on my free and private Facebook Group:Anchors of Encouragement
Contact us:AnchorsOfEncouragement@gmail.com
 

4 – Insensitive, Hurtful Comments? 3 Benefits of Taking Your Frustrations Out On Paper

Ever Said Something Out of Anger or Frustration? Become a Paper Tiger Instead?
Hi Neighbor!
Have you ever said something out of anger or frustration and as soon as it left your mouth, you wish you could take it back? 
Been there and done that more times than I care to remember.
In this episode, I want to encourage you to become a Paper Tiger instead. But not a paper tiger in the traditional sense. We’ll consider a different take on this metaphor as we look at the Self-Awareness Anchor.
And I want to share with you 3 benefits of taking out your frustrations on paper.
I pray this episode helps you avoid saying things you will regret.
Your Neighbor,Tim
P.S. I’ll also share a bonus benefit for paper sparring and tie it all together with your Daily Doable.
If this podcast has given you the courage and confidence to face storms in your life, the number one way you can thank me is to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts. 
Tell a friend about the show. Take a screenshot of this episode, share it in your Instagram stories, and tag me @TimMaudlin. 
You can also connect with me on my free and private Facebook Group:Anchors of Encouragement
Contact us:AnchorsOfEncouragement@gmail.com
 

3 – 3 Ways You Can Realize Your Potential? Anchors of Encouragement

Why You Should Ignore Your Critics?
Hi Neighbor!
You’re trying to do your best but there is someone on the sidelines criticizing your every move. Discouraging? You bet!
I’ve been there.
In this episode, I would like to share with you a 2,000-year-old story and how one person stood up to her critics and did what she could. This story explains the Biblical Guidance Anchor.
We’ll also consider 3 reasons why you should ignore your critics.
Tim
P.S. I’ll also share a bonus reason for ignoring your critics and tie it all together with your Daily Doable. 
If this podcast has given you the courage and confidence to face storms in your life, the number one way you can thank me is to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts. 
Tell a friend about the show. Take a screenshot of this episode, share it in your Instagram stories, and tag me @TimMaudlin. 
You can also connect with me on my free and private Facebook Group:Anchors of Encouragement
Contact us:AnchorsOfEncouragement@gmail.com
 

2 – 3 Ways You Can Acknowledge a Friend and Be Their Umbrella

Rain In Your Heart? Seek Shelter Under the Umbrella of a Friend
Hi Neighbor!
Have you ever had rain in your heart? Sometimes it can feel like a drizzle while other times it feels like a downpour.
Where can you go for shelter?
I believe the solution is found under the umbrella of a friend.
In this episode, I would like to share this idea of an umbrella with you and explain how it relates to the Encouragement Anchor.
We’ll also consider 3 ways you can acknowledge a friend and be their umbrella.
I pray this episode encourages you to seek shelter under the umbrella of a friend and be an umbrella too.
Tim
P.S. I’ll also share a bonus way to acknowledge a friend and tie it all together with your Daily Doable. 
If this podcast has given you the courage and confidence to face storms in your life, the number one way you can thank me is to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts. 
Tell a friend about the show. Take a screenshot of this episode, share it in your Instagram stories, and tag me @TimMaudlin. 
You can also connect with me on my free and private Facebook Group:Anchors of Encouragement
Contact us:AnchorsOfEncouragement@gmail.com
 

1 – 5 Ways to Love a Child of Adoption Trauma | Anchors of Encouragement

Would He Hate Us for Loving Him This Much?
Hi Neighbor! 
Did you finally realize your dream of having a family only to have your Happily-Ever-After turn into a nightmare? 
Does your life feel like a constant storm that pounds away at you physically, emotionally, and spiritually?
What would it feel like for someone to just sit with you in the trenches of trauma? I’ve been there.
My life had gotten to the point where my wife and I didn’t know if our son would hate us for loving him this much. But we had to do something, something we never thought we would do.
How do you love a child of adoption trauma?
In this episode, I want to share a Real and Raw story about my adoption journey. And the 5 ways we discovered to love our son.
I pray this episode blesses and encourages you.
Tim
P.S. I’ll also share a bonus way to love your child of adoption trauma. This way introduces the concept of a staple for this podcast – your Daily Doable.  
If this podcast has given you the courage and confidence to face storms in your life, the number one way you can thank me is to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts. 
Tell a friend about the show. Take a screenshot of this episode, share it in your Instagram stories, and tag me @TimMaudlin. 
You can also connect with me on my free and private Facebook Group:Anchors of Encouragement
Contact us:AnchorsOfEncouragement@gmail.com
 

Adoption Struggles and Support Podcast Trailer

Welcome to a new chapter of our podcast journey. Previously known as Anchors of Encouragement, our podcast is now called Adoption Struggles and Support. 
We’ve rebranded to make the podcast easier for struggling adoptive parents to find and access the support they need in their parenting journey. 
To introduce this new chapter, we released an updated trailer that reflects our renewed focus on providing hope and practical support. The earlier episodes are packed with encouragement and insights, providing a strong foundation of support as we continue this journey together. 
Did you finally realize your dream of having a family only to have your happily ever after turn into a nightmare? Are you constantly second-guessing your parenting, anxious about whether your child will make good choices and remain faithful? Have you neglected yourself to the point that it's taken a personal toll on you? 
If you're a struggling adoptive parent searching for answers in your parenting journey, you're in the right place.
Hi Neighbor, Welcome to Adoption Struggles and Support. I’m Tim, an adoptive parent and adoption mentor. 
I too felt the joy of having a family of my own, and I wish we could be like other families. But I found myself up late at night, anxious about my adopted child’s future and asking myself, will my child be okay? Where did I go wrong? 
It was only by grabbing a lifeline from God and my friends that I was able to navigate the challenges of adoptive life. And now I can’t wait to share everything I’ve learned with you. 
My mission is to teach Christian adoptive parents how to be okay even if their kids aren’t by anchoring them in biblical principles. 
If you’re ready for real and raw talk with strategies that lead to peace beyond comprehension, so you not only survive, but thrive in life's storms, this podcast is for you.
Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.Your Neighbor,Tim
P.S. You’re not alone in this journey. If you haven’t already joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.